"Your Kid Can Have Great Study Habits."
Train your kids to develop solid study habits. Your kids' job is to go to school and perform well. So in order to do well they have to learn how to do homework and how to study.
"Study Habits Teach Discipline"
There's a controversy surrounding the assigning of homework. I don't know what the reasons are for this controversy.
I hold it up against issues like child poverty and survival issues. I think it pales in comparison to those stark realities. So I guess I don't care if a kid is getting homework or not, but how they're doing it when they get some.
"Study Habits Are Age Appropriate"
Of course they are. Your child is in a certain grade. Our education system slots people in by age group. Unless you don't mind your child failing grades and many do. But they get promoted to the next grade when they may not be ready.
Perhaps some children would benefit from the little farm house one room school when we use to have small populations. I can certainly see how that might benefit kids who are not at the same level, either higher or lower than their peers. Whether this is possible in this day and age is for someone else's expertise.
"Study Habits Are Measurable"
So what would be wrong with that? Study habits determine how successful you're going to be the rest of your life. Don't think so?
Study habits are measurable. Aren't you at least curious about how your child performs during their school year?
Doing school work is a job. It's one of the few things you do where you get results and feedback almost immediately. Homework is your kids' first job. It's labour.
I once spoke with this very vibrant young lady. She was in high school. She told me how naturally bright she is or thought she was, until she started high school. Suddenly the school system was giving her homework to do and she wasn't able to keep up. Her grades were falling.
I was glad to see her confidence hadn't suffered too much. On the other hand, she hadn't figured out that the key to her success was to equip herself with some self discipline. And get the work done. I've often wondered how some of these kids were going to cope in the work place, where employers aren't very forgiving by a lack of a work ethic.
It's your job as a parent to instill that drive, that work ethic into your children. It doesn't just happen naturally. Where it definitely won't come from, is a sense of entitlement or self-indulgence.
"Set Your Kids Up For Homework Success"
Establish study habits as soon as possible. Any kind of success is dependent on consistency, continuity, and commitment. Here's a few pointers.
1. Set up a desk in a quiet spot, like their bedroom.
2. Dedicate that bedroom for sleeping, homework, and studying. Setting aside a place sets up study habits.
3. Remove any radios or TVs or video games or hand held games and most of their toys from that room. Soft toys are okay. No major distractions that deter the development of study habits.
4. Make it clear to your child what the purpose of the room is.
5. Make it clear what the purpose of school is.
6. Make it clear what the purpose of homework is. It's purpose is to build discipline and a work ethic. It is not torture. Practice makes perfect. It reveals any shortcomings in understanding. Wouldn't you rather know now, instead of being surprised at report card time?
7. The desk itself should be uncluttered. Clutter is also distracting.
8. Put everything they need on or in the drawers of that desk. Pencils, pens, erasers, a water bottle, crayons, colouring pencils, paper, books, paper note books, etc.
9. I suppose these days a lot of kids use computers to do research, but you're going to have to supervise, unless you place it close by so you can see what they're doing on it. Don't be too trusting.
10. Setting a time for homework is part of setting study habits.
11. If they don't have an activity right after school, get homework done as soon they get home.
12. You may allow a quick healthy snack just before they start. But they need to focus on their homework, not eating. This may also prevent spills and dirtying the homework by accident. And accidents do happen.
13. If they do have a sport or other activity first right after school, then homework should be done as soon as they can when they get back. Just check for due dates.
14. Reading every night is important. that is the homework when none is assigned. For young children, you should be reading to them too.
15. So you've already set their mindset that homework is a part of their lives and that they are expected to do it. Allow them to do it.
16. Check on them once in awhile if you're around.
17. If your school asks for you to check and sign off their homework notebooks, then you do so. It's important that your kids get the message that this is their work to do.
18. Give them lots of encouragement but don't ever do the homework for them. You're defeating the purpose of the homework. It's their work, not yours.
"Monitor The Homework"
As a parent, you monitor from time to time, but don't hover. You're trying to teach independence and some interdependence, not co-dependency, which is what I've observed instead. Co-dependency is a destructive crutch to any personality. It undermines personal power in a big way.
Your kids will learn to accomplish things on their own through good study habits.
Good study habits are important for self sufficiency and independence.
That's what builds true self esteem, a feeling of accomplishment and achievement that they derive for themselves.
Quite frankly I don't want to add to my work load - do you?
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