"How To Enhance Emotional Intelligence"

I show you how to enhance Emotional Intelligence. First, you have to accept that you have emotions and that they are a part of you. To feel is one of seven human rights. It fosters trust in yourself when you know exactly how and why feel about something. I have three things that you can do and also teach your children.

"How To Enhance Emotional Intelligence #1"

Emotions are neither negative nor positive, neither good nor bad. They just are. Why are we collectively so afraid of them? It’s because Western culture values the mind too much. Rational thought is more important than your emotions, which are paradoxically thought to be irrational.

Emotions don’t last long. Or they shouldn't.

Enjoy the good ones, for sure. But don’t ignore or avoid the bad ones. Learn from each emotion. Acknowledging each emotion is a major preventative of health problems and well worth the time to do so.

Stop avoiding or suppressing the emotions and learn how to deal with them instead. Future generations can avoid countless and useless hours, if not years or decades, of therapy with pyschiatrists, pyschologists, and pharmaceuticals. For the sake of your health – that is, mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical.

"How To Enhance Emotional Intelligence #2"

Children may learn by example or are actually told, for instance, that big boys don’t cry and neither do big girls, for that matter. They start finding out that suppressing feelings and emotions is required for growing up. Usually girls are considered to be more emotional, so they may be allowed to get away with too much.

Children learn what is “appropriate” behaviour for their gender. Subsequently many males are not in touch with their emotions, while many females are dominated by them. Neither scenario is healthy. Both are direct causes of imbalances that lead to disease and pain.

"How To Enhance Emotional Intelligence #3"

Never belittle a child who is demonstrating to you how they feel about a situation. Even when they can't speak words yet. They can feel your attitude. Your compassion counts.

Explain to them what is going on and why things are the way they are. Even if they're just a babbling baby. Reassure. Don’t hinder. Ask them questions. Let them ask you questions. Allow them to tell you what's on their mind. If a child is under 10 years old, they may have trouble articulating exactly what they need from you. Be patient and empathetic. Just know that your willingness to be understanding will be picked up.

The following is especially important for dealing with so-called negative emotions such as anger, fear, frustration, jealousy, etc. Dealing with happiness, joy, love is a no-brainer.

Either be quiet about the emotion or to do something positive with it. Do not allow destructive behaviour. If we have the emotion, then allow the emotion to run its course. Feel it keenly. Then let it go.

Letting go is an extremely important skill that will save many hours, days, weeks, years, or decades of needless suffering. Letting go is realizing that you only have control over your self and your feelings. You have no control over other people, situations, events, things, or animals. Get that into your head quick.

"All Abnormal Physical Conditions Are Due To Emotional Problems"

This is what happens. You get feelings and emotions. If you choose to ignore them and suppress them, your body sends you more messages. You continue to ignore them. The messages get stronger. By the time physical symptoms surface, your body has already gone through a few rounds, trying to tell you something that you need to take care of.

I have treated people who literally can no longer move. By this point, the body is saying, “Okay, so there. I’m going to make you pay attention to me. Now. Now you can’t run away. Now you’re going to listen.” Once they make the emotional and mental leap to let go, they literally move forward in their lives.

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